Stagnant Waters After 40, our love lives can feel like stagnant water. There’s no flow or movement and we fear they’ll sink us. But few of us have the courage to do much about it other than looking the other way. Unfortunately, not admitting to the reality of your love life or attempting to escape from the situation won’t solve your romantic problems. It’s high time for couples in their 40s to get away from their love illusions and pull their heads out of the sand! Work on It or Move on Be brave enough to work on your relationship, or walk away from it all together. But working on a relationship to make it better takes a lot of time, emotion and effort. Are you willing to commit to that? Is your partner? Conversely, if you don’t walk away when you need to, you risk contaminating every good memory you’ve made with that person. Why drag it out when you don’t need to? If your relationship makes you feel like there’s nothing special about you, then you are stuck in the wrong place and you need to get out of it. Anyone who has the power to make you feel ordinary is too important in your life and so you need to let them go. Dealing with a lover’s indifference is one of the toughest things to handle, and making a bad thing work is not always a great idea.“I feel like a dinosaur.” “My phone used to ring off the hook.” “All he wants to talk about is sports and politics.” “He used to love it when I teased him. Now he takes everything personally.” “He used to want to know everything about me. Now I feel like he is being distant.” When we hit the milestone 40, men want more spice in bed and women want more gravy over coffee table conversations. If you’re over 40 and you’re having these feelings as a result of relationship changes, your relationship is struggling!